I have been trying to answer this question for a while now. I think it depends on so many things like
how often you see your partner. Work schedules. What your kinks are.
What I have determined is that if you find someone with the right fit for you be thankful. Don’t try to force it. I believe everyone has these tendencies weather they choose to tap into the kinky side of them or not.
It can tend to wear on the masochist waiting on their next fix like a drug but not knowing is half the battle. I often find my mind racing about when the next time will be. And with who. And with what.
For me the marks help as a reminder of the last time. The adrenaline rush can almost be felt as you trace over them reliving the impact.
So to answer my question the Average is different for everyone.